Forgiveness (Ew, that word)


If you’ve followed me a long a little bit, you’ve read about some non-detailed struggles at work that I had been going through, involving women and drama. My husband knows some of my struggles but couldn’t offer advice.

But when I talked to my dad, he had some up his sleeve. After selling our family bakery recently, he became full time living his dream as a spiritual counselor/coach, using tools such as hypnosis and Radical Forgiveness.

So of course, my dad’s advise was to do a Radical Forgiveness worksheet. (Free worksheet, found here. Also found through a simple google search.)

Now, he’s healed MANY people through this RF process, and typically it can help if someone who’s been trained coaches you through the process. There are also CDs, etc. But I declined any further help than the worksheet.

It allows me to take one person at a time, go through the victim process of explaining my angers, seeing what I have in common with them, and eventually seeing that this process was all for my highest good, because all of our souls are friends on the spirit level and help each other out through these earthly dramas. I’m familiar with the sheet, and I grew up thinking this way about life and souls, so this makes sense to me.

I didn’t do it for her (the person I was forgiving). I decided to forgive because I was tired of that feeling inside, the rage, the hurt, that dreaded feeling when I knew we’d be working together… the dread of even going to work. NO! I love my job! I’m not going to let any lady (even if it’s multiple ladies on occasion) make me feel that way about my job! Why would I even consider leaving a job I love because of you? No, I was tired of those feelings.

So I chose to forgive for MYSELF, so my feelings would be at PEACE whenever I saw this person that I’m dealing with. Whenever I thought about them.

Being angry with her doesn’t hurt her. And if it did hurt her? That would only make situations worse in the long run, because for our spiritual growth, we are supposed to be making peace with people. Going along with the concept that WE ARE ALL ONE. In the spiritual plane, we’re all friends, basically.

I did the RF Worksheet. I felt better. I truly did.

The next few days, I chilled. I didn’t see her. I healed.

Then I saw her at work. I don’t have to like her, but I still acted my happy self instead of my dark self. At one point, I laughed a little, and she looked surprised, and said she could use some laughter in her life.

Which is when I realized, perhaps she’s having dark days herself, and she could sure use my light.

This is a personal experience I hope some of you can apply. I know I still have several more people to do the worksheet on in my life for various things. But I did the most pressing one at the time first.

And I’m not saying that nothing bad or dramatic is ever going to pop up again at work between this lady and me. Perhaps it won’t, because I’ve healed the karma. But perhaps it will, and I won’t respond with negative emotion eating my insides because I’ve forgiven, and I don’t need those emotions anymore. OR if I do feel those again, I’ll do another worksheet.

If you have a truly deep, dark issue that you’re dealing with, I would suggest going further: Go to a person like my dad, a Radical Forgiveness Coach, a Spiritual Counselor, to help you through your issue.

It does help, if you are open & willing.

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Namaste with Love,

~Celestial K.


11 thoughts on “Forgiveness (Ew, that word)

  1. tarnishedsoul

    Girls and drama tend to go hand in hand, don’t they?
    Sometimes its hard to let other people’s issues remain their issues, but it’s kinda freeing when you’re able to achieve that – and maybe forgiveness is the step towards that, huh?
    Your dad sounds about as wise as mine! πŸ™‚

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    • Haha girls and drama – yes πŸ˜› Glad to hear your dad is wise like mine πŸ™‚ Nice to hear. I’m sure I still have lots to learn from him and his ways. Forgiveness is truly freeing, I’ve discovered. Sometimes easy with intention. Sometimes NOT easy with big things.

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  2. Well, I will tell you that forgiveness comes deep and with a price. That price is that you can free your soul finally from what’s been holding you down. Forgiveness has to be felt in the deepest part of your soul. And when you forgive that person, you then have freed there souls in this journey as well. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things as humans to do. It reminds me of pride as well. I think they kind of tie hand to hand actually. I learned to let go of things because I had to for my health and reasons only. But at the end of the day you still have to answer to God in your prayers. And God has taught me to letting go and forgiving people is what he teaches us all the time. I know this is not an easy thing to do, but as humans we must do it. We are no better then the people around us. But I hope maybe this helps a bit so you can understand where I come from in this… many blessings and hugs to you….

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    • I am amazed at your wisdom and knowledge, I truly am, friend! πŸ™‚ Your words are true, and I feel that it is a deeply personal thing that can heal YOU most of all. Sometimes the relationship, but your own healing is the goal. That’s interesting that you’ve had to do it for your health, because I’ve only heard stories of people who carry the anger/bitter feelings inside for so long, they get sick. Normal doctors won’t tell you, “Oh, you should forgive, and release, and see if it goes away then.” Hehe, but I’m glad you found the wisdom and strength to do your own forgiving!! This is a lesson I’m continuing to learn about!

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      • Well I have been all around in my journeys in life, and for me that is where I learned my wisdom and knowledge from. I learned to just watch and study the people around me. After awhile I could take notes to what was important in my journey. I know there is the God factor in this as well. And I have helped a lot of people in my life, and I am thankful for that chance that I have been giving to do such a thing. Growing up with the martial arts since I was 6 years old was the other biggest part of my knowledge. Learning from a master that was from Japan and coming to this country and taking me on like the many students before was totally an amazing experience. Master was a simple man with a simple plan, and that plan was not to let things overcome who you are as a person. That we are all needed in the end of this journey. That is why I talk about my masters stories in my blog. This is important knowledge and it saved my life over and over in the 41 years of living my life. But in closing this comment, I must say that your post are just as important in this world. And what you offer to them is your knowledge, and I look at it this way, I can learn from anyone that I can be around if I am willing to let it in. And I have done that with you and your posts, so with this said thank you! And never stop doing things that you believe in the most. You never know it could be saving an important life today… Take care and may the Lord be your flashlight in a time of darkness…

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      • I enjoyed reading about your deep insight! I love that you studied the martial arts so much. You are very lucky to have started so young! I did do a few years of it, so I appreciate it for sure and I thoroughly enjoyed studying it. (blue belt!)Katas were my favorite. I seem to have a lot of experience in different areas of art, even if it’s not a very deep study necessarily. And you are SO right that we all learn from each other, and there’s always more to learn, no matter who you are! I very much appreciate this comment and your message. All the best to you in this time and always! πŸ™‚

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      • Master Wong taught me along time ago that Katas make who we are, and I know that he was right. Everyday I work on my katas and I keep learning from them. I never forgotten how important they are to me. And the best part is that I can teach them to someone else and they can feel the energy that they bring to your heart. I am going to be going to the rank of 5th degree black belt this year, and for me it wasn’t about the rank, it was about the journey. And I remember when I was a blue belt and that was the times of my life let me tell you. Getting your black belt means then you have to teach, and let me tell you that teaching isn’t all cracked up to be. I loved being a student, and that reason was because those are the best years of sucking in the teaching tools from my Master. When Master Wong died my world stopped for over 3 months, and then I went to church and realized I was far from over that I needed to teach this wisdom to others, and that is exactly what I am doing almost 15 years later after his death. I am giving people like yourself that hope in these simple messages. But I am glad you stop by and check in when you do, and I love your work and I think that Master Wong is living in you too. Your saving people I think in your words as well. But keep up this blog, like I said before there are people that are hanging on to it. And that is an important thing to remember. Even when your days are bad that your still bringing hope to others. Take care of yourself and many more blessings to you..

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      • Wow, your words truly touch my heart, friend. I do feel the spirit of Master Wong. He is such a strong spirit, and so wise. I can feel that you learned so much from him, and now you have been the teacher! And being the teacher is a fabulous thing, and you do many people a service you may not feel like you’re getting recognized for. People look up to you and your students respect you. I was a teacher in the school system for three years, and I was never respected, and the students were cruel. I stopped teaching because it wasn’t for me in this day and age. In the past, or perhaps a different country, I think I could have been a great teacher. (I taught English Literature.) However, I needed to find a different path, and I did. I found a path that I really, really enjoy! One day, I still have a hope in my heart that I can work hard, master yoga, and then teach that later in life. I love yoga, as you do martial arts. I’ve heard about people doing yoga and teaching it for very late in life, even until death, as you have experienced with your blessed Master. I may never teach yoga, but I hope that one day space will open where I can dedicate more time to its practice! Then I can be a teacher again, perhaps. But until then, I am comfortable and happy with where I am. Thank you for all your kind words about my blog, and more importantly, about my words and the power of words! There is much to be felt, learned, changed, and taught with words. I really hope to inspire and lead people to better lives and better feelings in their lives. So thank you for giving me encouragement. πŸ™‚ Blessings to you, friend!

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  3. Forgiveness is never for the offender, imho. More often than not they could care less. Forgiveness is for the victim because all that anger and hatred and other bad stuff kept inside can just plain make a soul sick. That’s cool about your dad. πŸ™‚

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