If you’ve followed me a long a little bit, you’ve read about some non-detailed struggles at work that I had been going through, involving women and drama. My husband knows some of my struggles but couldn’t offer advice.
But when I talked to my dad, he had some up his sleeve. After selling our family bakery recently, he became full time living his dream as a spiritual counselor/coach, using tools such as hypnosis and Radical Forgiveness.
So of course, my dad’s advise was to do a Radical Forgiveness worksheet. (Free worksheet, found here. Also found through a simple google search.)
Now, he’s healed MANY people through this RF process, and typically it can help if someone who’s been trained coaches you through the process. There are also CDs, etc. But I declined any further help than the worksheet.
It allows me to take one person at a time, go through the victim process of explaining my angers, seeing what I have in common with them, and eventually seeing that this process was all for my highest good, because all of our souls are friends on the spirit level and help each other out through these earthly dramas. I’m familiar with the sheet, and I grew up thinking this way about life and souls, so this makes sense to me.
I didn’t do it for her (the person I was forgiving). I decided to forgive because I was tired of that feeling inside, the rage, the hurt, that dreaded feeling when I knew we’d be working together… the dread of even going to work. NO! I love my job! I’m not going to let any lady (even if it’s multiple ladies on occasion) make me feel that way about my job! Why would I even consider leaving a job I love because of you? No, I was tired of those feelings.
So I chose to forgive for MYSELF, so my feelings would be at PEACE whenever I saw this person that I’m dealing with. Whenever I thought about them.
Being angry with her doesn’t hurt her. And if it did hurt her? That would only make situations worse in the long run, because for our spiritual growth, we are supposed to be making peace with people. Going along with the concept that WE ARE ALL ONE. In the spiritual plane, we’re all friends, basically.
I did the RF Worksheet. I felt better. I truly did.
The next few days, I chilled. I didn’t see her. I healed.
Then I saw her at work. I don’t have to like her, but I still acted my happy self instead of my dark self. At one point, I laughed a little, and she looked surprised, and said she could use some laughter in her life.
Which is when I realized, perhaps she’s having dark days herself, and she could sure use my light.
This is a personal experience I hope some of you can apply. I know I still have several more people to do the worksheet on in my life for various things. But I did the most pressing one at the time first.
And I’m not saying that nothing bad or dramatic is ever going to pop up again at work between this lady and me. Perhaps it won’t, because I’ve healed the karma. But perhaps it will, and I won’t respond with negative emotion eating my insides because I’ve forgiven, and I don’t need those emotions anymore. OR if I do feel those again, I’ll do another worksheet.
If you have a truly deep, dark issue that you’re dealing with, I would suggest going further: Go to a person like my dad, a Radical Forgiveness Coach, a Spiritual Counselor, to help you through your issue.
It does help, if you are open & willing.
Namaste with Love,